This time let's talk about change, but not just any change. Friendship changes, those that you can't explain the why, how, or when did it happened, it just occurs that change affects how we see others and who we see. Radical friendship changes tend to happen to all of us, the peculiar thing about friendship is that is fragile, and directly or indirectly what we do, or even what we don't do affects how we see our friends.
The first thing to understand is that change is simply good, and it is because although we can tolerate the same crew for years or the same people around us, if you decided to take on a new initiatives for your life chances are some of those friends can put up with it and others won't. In fact you might encounter that they are not flexible or adaptable friends, and those who cannot apport positive things to your life even if it means a laugh, do yourself a favor and scratch them right out the list...
That saying about "it takes a strong character to not let peers influence you", is not true, it takes decision to not let others affect you, and that decision can be in the form of change. The good thing is that change can bring the best and the worst out of friends. It allows us to understand who is there to make fun of you, to criticize you, to exercise their hypocrisy with you, or simply it shows and bears their insecurities. And realistically, true friends are not those who put every thing in color rose for you, but is also how often they highlight the negatives, and hey! not only friends but even family too.
It is important to not think that friends become apart from us because of our actions, perhaps it was time for their change too.At times we think friendships are owned but they are not, friends are borrowed and is better of not to become too attach, because we never lose what we simply don't possess. Unless you are kind of obsessive with your friend, then letting go will certainly be a problem... but keep in mind change is good, it is...
As you keep moving further in your experiences you can realize that those who were at some point part of your life, helped you define what you are today, change has to come for us to grow, to evolve, and to understand what our expectations are. friends that can stick with you and adapt to your evolving are worth keeping, those who don't make it, give them your sincere thanks because their input was important too at some point... key message here, disappointments cannot be avoided, people change and your circumstances do too... the only remedy is to stick to your beliefs no matter who is friends with you, and don't let anyone turn you down due to what others think of you...attachments is problematic and you only need your two legs and arms to keep on. Think it through, Change is good, it is!
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